Oh, it’s not Friday?

It’s almost Friday!

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Has anyone else found this week to be particularly draggy?  In my head I’ve been thinking it was one day ahead all week, even waking up this morning pumped for Friday and the weekend, and quickly realizing I was a little off base.

Good news is that the stress from last week has subsided a bit!  That’s actually really good news, and suffice it to say that it’s not so bad to replace last week’s stress of “what ifs” in relation to home buying and inspections with this week’s stresses of “where in the holy hell are we going to find room for all these boxes that we have to pack?!”

So yeah, progress has been made on that front, and it’s exciting progress and seemingly good progress, but progress that I’m still nervous to really shout from the rooftops and fully celebrate just yet until the deal is fully closed, if you know what I’m saying.  So, as my mom says, “film at 11” on that.

(Does anyone else use that phrase?  We always say it and I guess I have just assumed that people know what it means, but maybe it’s just a thing with my family?  You say: “so you’re going to take your first Zumba class tonight?,” and I say, “yeah, we’ll see how that goes, film at 11.”  It just kind of means, you know, “fill you in later.”  Like the 11 o’clock news, you follow me?  Anyone?)

So there’s that.  I guess I don’t have too much more to write tonight but I wanted to say thank you to all of you who are reading and have commented and emailed me as I’ve gotten back into the swing of things with writing on a blog again.  I kind of forgot how much I missed the practice of blogging and writing, and I’ve been really enjoying it.  Writing, thinking of ideas of what to post about, catching up with old friends and discovering new blogs.

For now, thank you- and here’s to a good evening and a happy Friday!

What’s been one of the happiest moments you’ve had this week?

 

The stress, it’s real.

You know what?  I’m stressed.

There, I admitted it.  That’s the first step?

I’ve dealt with stress in the past; don’t we all?  Generally, I’m a good stress handle-er.  At my core, I’m an optimistic person, and for the most part, stress usually doesn’t get the best of me.  Sure, there are days when I’ve got more on my plate than others and I feel a bit overwhelmed, but I typically do a pretty good job of keeping my shit together.

And no, I’m not totally and completely wigging out over here, but my metaphoric plate is heaping over right about now.  And guess what? It’s not filled with just clean, healthy stuff either.

Red wine.  Red wine has been a good comfort lately.  Not to escape the stress exactly, but a nice glass after a tough day, sitting on the couch in my favorite jammies and warm socks, drinking a glass of Pinot, well, things feel a little bit better right then.

Some yummy recipes that I have been trying out lately have been keeping my plate full too, but that’s not really what I’m getting at. The stress that I have that’s weighing my plate down is manifesting in a few different ways lately, and some of them are new to me.

Emotionally- I’m having trouble quieting my mind.  Usually I’m a pretty outgoing person who loves to spend time with others and laugh and socialize, but I’ve been feeling the need to retreat a little bit.  I’m definitely more irritable and edgy, and my husband? Let’s just say the combo of us has been a bit … tumultuous this past week.

Physically- Hello headaches!  And goodbye a restful night’s sleep.  With my mind going a million miles a minute, resting and relaxing has been tough, and sleep has been hard to come by.

Mentally- Worrying, I’m doing my fair share of it.  Though I’m able to keep a good perspective and my optimism usually wins out, I’m human and I’m still nervous by nature, and a lot of it is about things I have no control over.  The worst. 

So where’s all this stemming from?  My husband and I are smack down in the middle of buying our first home together, and damn if that’s not a good way to test a relationship.

Truth be told, we’re doing pretty okay.  Of course this whole process is just inherently stressful based on what it is- finally picking a place to make your own, hoping beyond hope that you’re making the right decision.  Throwing all of your money towards that decision and hoping that the sellers will pick us, choose us, love us (cue Merideth Grey’s famous plea to Derek).

It’s a lot of stress over here, and I’m trying to find balance.

Trying to continue to eat healthy.  Exercising often.  I took a wonderful ten mile run yesterday and so enjoyed every bit of the brisk autumn New England weather we’re having.  Talking with family and friends- our parents and close friends who have been through this process have been awesome and so valuable to us these past few weeks.  Having fun.  My husband and I are still trying to make time for the things we enjoy.  Watching a comedy special on Netflix.  Grabbing a couple beers or dressing up as Forrest Gump and Jenny for Halloween.  Cooking together.  Being silly.

Because the thing is?  Life goes on.  Stress happens.  It’s real, and it’s not awesome, but it’s life.  And we can either find ways to cope with it the best we can, asking for help when we need it, or what?  The opposite?  Let the stress totally consume us and tear us down?

It’s all about the balance- finding a way to balance a full plate without toppling it over and making a total mess of everything.  It’s not easy, but it’s life.  And we’ll get through it.

How do you handle a stressful time?  Best go-to stress reliever?

Some helpful resources for managing stress:

The thing about balance…

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So this idea about balance?  With post number one on this site, I’m here to admit: finding balance is not always easy.

There are many types of balance.  The actual, physical kind of balance that helps us stand up straight, take a nice, brisk, fall walk, or run a PR in a half marathon.  There’s the physical kind of balance that helps us to invert upside down, engage our core, and rock an unassisted headstand without totally wiping out and ending up with a permanent bruise (not that I would know anything about that!).

There’s emotional balance, the kind that helps to keep our highs and lows in check, aiding us to getting in touch with what makes us feel good, what freaks us the heck out and causes anxiety, and points out how much of something we can handle before feeling like we are reaching our emotional tipping point.

Then there’s the balance we can have in the health and wellness realms.  Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, eating the kinds of foods that energize you, steering clear of too much of a good (or bad) thing, and finding the healthy middle ground of “just right.”

This balance thing, it’s tricky.  Some days, it takes actual, serious, put your mind and your thoughts and your conscious efforts into it hard work. But sometimes when you’re lucky, and you’re in a good place, stars align and things work in a such a way that balance just comes as second nature. Some days, you are able to get right up into that handstand, and actually stay there for several long, deep breaths, without smashing your body into a coffee table.  Lots of times, you get in a good groove, eating what feels good inside your body, and it in turn responds in a happy way, giving us the energy and stamina to make it through a long run or a killer kickboxing class.  And then, there are many times during our hectic work days where we are able to find small moments or frames of time where we can take a deep inhale, think about your full emotional plates, the big decisions and small ones too that we are dealing with, and we can find a way to feel (mostly) at peace with the here and now, gently reminding ourselves that things usually have a way of working out as they should at the end of the day.

I don’t know about you, but I sure don’t have the whole balance thing mastered by any means. I do, however, try to find a semblance of balance in each day.  Some days are wins and I hardly have to think about it; other days end up being not so much of pretty picture of balance, and I realize I feel a bit off inside.

My goal is to find small ways to nurture myself each day, to capture small doses of balance that help me to feel grounded, give me energy, make me feel healthy and positive, all that ultimately make the best version of myself shine on.

How do you win at finding balance in your everyday, and where do you struggle?