2015 Non Resolutions

Well, the whirlwind of the holidays have come and gone, and here we are in the first full week of 2015. Happy New Year!

Is it freezing where you are?  I don’t just mean 32 degrees freezing, how about -7 degrees bitter cold? Yikes. I started off January with the intention to run every day this month.  I did this from the first through the fourth, but come this week, temperatures have been crazy cold, so the outdoor running has been… not to much.  I could go to the gym and run on the treadmill, but I’d lose my sanity pretty quick doing that; I hate treadmill running for much more than three miles at a time.  It is supposed to “warm up” this weekend (actually get to 32 degrees) so I plan to get back outside for some more brisk runs.

Speaking of intentions and goals and reflecting on the year ahead, have you made any New Year’s Resolutions?  I don’t know about you, but I often find that with resolutions comes a lot of pressure.  Don’t get me wrong, I think setting goals and putting intentions out there is a good thing, but “New Year’s Resolutions” to me, has always felt sort of corny and forced.  You look back on the past year, and you make this big, grand list of things that you plan to do better at in the upcoming year.  You resolve to “lose weight” or “begin eating healthy.”  It’s a lot of pressure I think, and frankly I’m all about going easy on ourselves and taking the pressure off as we start a new year.

So, the Non-Resolution.  For the past seven years now, I have made a list at the beginning of each year of things that I resolve not to do.  I find this a bit easier and for me it makes a little more sense.  Instead of focusing on all of the things that you want to do, or change, or be better at this year, I encourage you to join me in making a small list of non-resolutions– things you would like to stop or avoid, or do less of in 2015.

In 2015 I resolve not to:

  • Say yes when I really mean no, or maybe.  This one has been on my list more than once, and it’s something I struggle with on the regular.  By saying yes to something that I’m lukewarm about, just to satisfy someone else, what I’m essentially doing is saying no- that what I want doesn’t really matter, or isn’t too important.  I’m going to try to be better at this.
  • I resolve not to be so hard on myself.  I need to really remember to treat myself like I would a dear friend.  Make my self talk a little kinder, not be s0 judgey about myself the same way I wouldn’t judge a good friend for their choices.
  • Interrupt as much.  I hate when people interrupt; it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.  But you know that saying, the one where you dislike traits in others that you can recognize in yourself.  Yeah.  I know I interrupt too.  My husband and I sometimes argue about interrupting- I give him a hard time for interrupting but then I do it right back to him.  I really want to work on this.
  • I resolve to not worry so much.  Every single year this makes my list.  I’d say that I’ve gotten better at this one, but worry is kind of built into my genes, and I just sort of carry it with me wherever I go.  I try not to dwell on things too much, really do try to focus on living in the moment, not worrying about the “what-ifs” of life.  I know this is something I need to keep working on.  I’ll never be perfect at it and I think to some degree, a little worry is a good thing.  One quote I really love by Michael J. Fox says, “If you get caught up in the worst case scenario and it doesn’t happen, you’ve wasted your time. And if you are caught up in the worst case scenario and it does happen, you’ve lived it twice.” Michael, you nailed it.
  • Text while I’m driving.  Yeah, seriously.
  • Go a week without running.  Running makes me happy.  I love running.  I do all sorts of other exercise, but running you can do anywhere, mostly any time.  I may not be able to run every single day of January, but I can at least run once a week the whole year through, because it makes me feel good, and it’s fun to run.
  • Lastly, in 2015, I resolve to not not live authentically. I will try my best to be true to myself and to be self aware.  I will focus on living in the moment, being genuine, and being kind to myself and others.

What do you resolve not to do in 2015?

11 thoughts on “2015 Non Resolutions

  1. I like your idea of “non-resolutions”. I agree that in my mind, resolutions were always something that people said they are going to do and then didn’t do, so they hold no weight with me. I do like to set goals, and am definitely a list and spreadsheet maker, and I do believe that without a plan, you will fail, so I always have something boiling on the back burner. However, it’s hard to put a name to it sometimes. So I usually set goals for myself each year, but I really like your idea of setting “goals” of what NOT to do!

    Also, I can totally relate to the “not be so hard on myself” goal. Phew. I am my worst critique! When other people have confidence in me, inside I am still thinking that I may fail. That is definitely one that I have been working on over the years and it is getting better but I am still not 100% there.

  2. Such a great idea! I’m with you on the worrying less. I’m happy to say that I managed to the kick texting while driving habit this past year. I will check my phone if I’m at a red light and am fully stopped, otherwise, it can wait. If it can’t, I’ll call them. They have made it illegal in several of our municipalities around here, so that makes it more of an incentive, too =)

  3. @Travel Spot- I think that’s it- putting the “resolution” name on things kind of already prefaces it with some pressure. Maybe making it something I’ll NOT do this year, in my mind, makes it seem a little more approachable? Glad too, that I’m not the only one around here that tends to be a little hard on myself! It’s a good goal for us all to have to be a little easier on ourselves in 2015!

  4. @Nora- Worrying has always been on my list, over and over, each year. I don’t know whether that means I’m just not getting it right, or whether I just need to come to terms with the fact that a little bit of worry will always be there for me, but finding different ways to manage it is key.

  5. I too am not a resolutioner but rather a goal/intention setter. I did really well on my 2014 intentions. This year I’m obsessed with getting ready for my first tri. Meaning I NEED to figure out this swim thing. Um yeah, crazy cold here. I’ve been milling it all week and am quite thankful I don’t have a race until late April. Hoping to maybe get out for a run tomorrow.

  6. I like your non-resolutions because there are a lot of habits/behaviors/mind sets that we’d be better off leaving in the past. I should also work on some of these things like saying yes less when I really want to say no or am only saying yes out of a sense of obligation. I would like to worry less and be less hard on myself but those seem like insurmountable goals for me as sad as that is… I feel like some of those habits and tendencies are so imbedded in me, it seems daunting to try to change those thought patterns!

    It is crazy stupid cold here now so I can relate to not wanting to run. I am a total cold weather wimp and prefer to run if it is 10 degrees or above. It’s been sub-zero this week with windchills in the -10 to -30 range so running outdoors just isn’t happening. So instead I have been doing 4 mile runs on the dreadmill a couple of times a week (listening to podcasts helps me stay sane while doing this) and then I do a 1 mile warm up on other days combined with a strength training workout. I am going cross country skiing today, though, since it’s pretty mild out (and by mild I mean 15 degrees!).

  7. @Marcia- I’m with you- I’m not currently training for a specific race, so I guess that makes my motivation to get out there and run in this cold weather a little less… but, that being said, I’m trying to at least get a couple good runs in a week outside, to help keep up my running stamina. As far as training for a tri- that’s awesome! I’ve done a handful and they’re really fun! I used to swim competitively, so if you need some feedback or tips on the swimming, let me know!

    @Lisa- I’m with you on the running! Yikes. I like the idea of listening to a podcast on the treadmill. I’ve been super into Serial lately and listening on the treadmill would help feed my addiction and help make the runs go by quick! And hey, you are in good company with the worry and being hard on yourself— my suggestion is to try not to think of those things as insurmountable to “win” at, but more as things you can slowly chip away at and get better at each day. We’re similar in that we both know that the worry isn’t ever going to completely vanish, but recognizing it and being mindful of it, I think, helps.

    @Tara- Good Non-Resolution! And back at you with the blog name- we’re twins! Welcome!

  8. I have always loved your non resolutions!

    The negative self talk is one of my biggest problems as well. I really need to not judge myself so harshly!

    Hope you’re having a great New Year, so far Meg!!

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