Holidaze

Well it wasn’t my intention to start a new blog and go almost a month between posts. Between work, traveling, visiting family, getting ready for the holidays, getting ready to move, and a hundred and ten other things lately, writing hasn’t really happened.  I guess you could say while trying to balance my crazy life lately, this space has been put on the back burner.

But here’s the thing about balance that’s so cool.  You can get a little off track, you can lose your way a bit, but your body inevitably craves some sort of center, a kind of baseline balance that we want to get back to, and naturally steer towards.  Sometimes it’s easier to get back to our balance, back in a good groove, and sometimes it’s really freaking hard.  Like when it’s Thanksgiving and then it’s all of a sudden December and it’s the hectic holiday season and oh, you just happen to be buying a home amongst all this busy-ness, and then Christmas is coming and at the same time there’s work parties, and cocktail parties with friends, and there’s baby showers, and packing (lots of packing, and procrastination!), and there’s trips to NYC, trips to Pennsylvania, family pets dying, babies being born, new haircuts!, Zumba classes with one of your favorite co-workers, shopping, more packing, less running, more takeout, less healthy choices, and then you realize: holy hell, I need a moment to just breathe. 

And that right there is where I’m at right now.  I have a pretty full plate at the moment, most of it all really good things, some of it just regular stuff, and thankfully nothing really unfortunate to fill the plate, but none the less, this plate is piling over!  I have so much going on right now that some days I honestly don’t remember what I went into a room for, what my workout was the day before, if I fed my cat, or took out the trash, or where I put the Christmas present that I got for my mom two weeks ago.

When life hands you a ton of shit at once like this, even if the shit is good shit, it’s important to remember to breathe.  So simple yet sometimes I feel like with a big whirlwind, days go by and it can be easy to just keep going and not really taking time to be present in the moment.  For me, there’s a few things I’m doing to try to maintain some sort of balance during this busy time…

  • I’m going easy on myself.  I’m being kind to myself.  I’m doing what I can, when I can.  Instead of putting pressure on myself to PACK! ALL! THE! BOXES! right this second, I’m doing a few boxes at a time.  And instead of being hard on myself for missing a workout, I’m focusing on really making the workouts and runs that I can get in be effective and on point.
  • I’m trying to get enough rest.  This one’s hard, because for me, after a long, hectic day of crazy-ness, what I really like to do is veg out in front of the TV, catch up on Mob Wives, pin recipes on Pinterest, and watch YouTube videos on how to master a handstand.  I could do all of this until 1am, every night, but I’d be a nasty grouch and not productive because of it.  Also, when I don’t get enough rest, it ends up getting everything else out of whack.  I crave unhealthy foods and drinks, I’m apt to want to do more lazy things, I end up being harder on myself because I’m sleepy, and I’m a cranky and all around don’t feel good.  So, I’m trying to get at least 6-7 hours of sleep a night.
  • I’m enjoying small pleasures and indulgences.  This is a regular one for me, as I really do try to practice moderation on a regular basis, but especially at this time of year, with opportunities to eat yummy treats, drink seasonal cocktails, go on mini weekend excursions, maybe do a little shopping for ourselves while shopping for others, I’m trying to enjoy it all.  The key here for me is that I’m trying to practice it all with a solid sense of moderation.  I’m really trying to ask myself, “is it worth it?” before I go in for seconds, or before I splurge on a 300 calorie drink, or decide to go for an eight mile run in the cold when I’d rather sleep in- I ask myself if what I want is worth it, and if the answer is at least more than 50/50 tipping towards yes, then I usually do it.  And I’m trying (trying real hard) not to have any regrets.  If I decide it’s worth it, then I’m really truly trying to be okay with my choice, and not complaining that I wish I slept in longer instead of running, or that I feel guilty that I ate the third cookie at a friends house.  If it’s worth it, it’s worth it, and I want to enjoy it.
  • Lastly, I’m just going with it.  There’s lots of planning that’s happening right now in my life between the holidays and visiting family and traveling and holiday parties and planning to move into a new home, but at the end of the day, I just need a break from plans, so I’m mostly just going with the flow. What’s that really mean?  I like balance, I do.  And I strive for it, but at the end of the day, life isn’t about lists of how to achieve the perfect balance, or planning out how to feel more centered. What really matters is enjoying the moment, going with what feels right, being kind to ourselves and one another, and taking good care of ourselves.  I think that right there is what really makes us feel balance in the long run.

What about you?  How are you staying balanced during this hectic season?

4 thoughts on “Holidaze

  1. Oh wow, you DO have a lot going on right not, especially with the purchase of a home. It’s tough when you feel overwhelmed, even when the stuff that is making you feel overwhelmed is happy stuff. That is how I felt in October as I had a lot of visitors and social plans a fun trip and a work trip and gah. It was just too much and it got to the point where I wasn’t enjoying things, I was just checking them off the list so I could focus on the next obligation… which is no way to live life! So I really limited what I planned in November and carved out more unplanned nights and weekends because that is what I need to stay sane.

    I’m feeling so so in terms of balance right now. I’m prepared for the holidays but I’ve had a lot of commitments lately in the evenings which require me to get up really early before work so I can get a workout in which makes for really long days and a super exhausted Lisa. But I will be at my parents lake home for Christmas and it’s so peaceful up there, so I am looking forward to life slowing down for a couple of days!

  2. Boy, can I relate to this right now! The stopping myself and giving time to breathe is key for me. Also, I will often stop and write everything down that needs to get done. I typically don’t do lists but when things get crazy I have to.

    Congrats on the step of buying a home!!

  3. Yes to small indulgences! That’s what this season is all about. But yes to balance, too. Not so easy. And I feel you about a crazed holidazed season. I have been utterly failing with finding the overall balance this year.

    Merry Christmas!

  4. I love your tips! I always imagine my balance as being cups and if one starts to feel empty, I need to do something to fill it up (like go for a run or plan a girls’ night). I think our internal compasses are always a better measure of how balanced we are than a list or set plan. Balance has to go hand-in-hand with flexibility, right!? 🙂

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