T’is the Season…

**Thank you for the kind, supportive, and congratulatory comments on my last post!  We’re so excited, and at 17 1/2 weeks with this little M&M brewing, it’s finally starting to sink in that this time next year, we’ll have a little human to take care of!  We’re thrilled and genuinely thank everyone for your sweet comments and messages!

Does anyone else feel like you blinked and all of a sudden, it’s December?  It feels like it was just the early fall and all of a sudden, here we are in December, with just over two weeks until Christmas?  I don’t know where the time goes!

The weekend before last we got our Christmas tree!  We wanted to cut down our own at a local tree farm, but we were crunched for time and instead we dished out $45 to the community house in our town for a super dry (but pretty!) tree.

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Charlie is totally unsure of what to make of a TREE, in the house…

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Even more unsure (er, embarrassed?) was how she felt in this little reindeer outfit I picked up for her when Matt was away on business last week…

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But seriously, how cute is that little embarrassed face?!

Last weekend my mom came to stay with me a night while Matt was away, and we indulged in the yummiest of Greek food, followed by a night in on the couch with a Hallmark holiday movie and M&M’s.

If I hadn’t slurped up all of this crack deliciousness in almost one sitting the week before, I would have saved some to share with her…

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The next day, we got a little crafty and my mom helped me with a project I had in mind to bring a little bit of holiday charm to our window boxes out front!

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Other than the decorations, I do still have some shopping to do, but I’m pretty excited for the holidays this year.  We’ll be traveling to Pennsylvania to visit with Matt’s family this year.  I’m excited but know I’ll also miss my family back home.  We’re doing a pre-Christmas get together which will be good, and within the next two weeks, between the two of us, we have four parties on the books!  I have a feeling January will be a month dedicated to a bit of R&R after all the holidaze craziness.  We even have a little trip (my coworker told me this is our babymoon!) planned to Puerto Rico for late January that we’re really looking forward to!

How about you?  Are you ready for the holidays?  Have you decorated?  Lots of shopping left to do?

 

2015 Non Resolutions

Well, the whirlwind of the holidays have come and gone, and here we are in the first full week of 2015. Happy New Year!

Is it freezing where you are?  I don’t just mean 32 degrees freezing, how about -7 degrees bitter cold? Yikes. I started off January with the intention to run every day this month.  I did this from the first through the fourth, but come this week, temperatures have been crazy cold, so the outdoor running has been… not to much.  I could go to the gym and run on the treadmill, but I’d lose my sanity pretty quick doing that; I hate treadmill running for much more than three miles at a time.  It is supposed to “warm up” this weekend (actually get to 32 degrees) so I plan to get back outside for some more brisk runs.

Speaking of intentions and goals and reflecting on the year ahead, have you made any New Year’s Resolutions?  I don’t know about you, but I often find that with resolutions comes a lot of pressure.  Don’t get me wrong, I think setting goals and putting intentions out there is a good thing, but “New Year’s Resolutions” to me, has always felt sort of corny and forced.  You look back on the past year, and you make this big, grand list of things that you plan to do better at in the upcoming year.  You resolve to “lose weight” or “begin eating healthy.”  It’s a lot of pressure I think, and frankly I’m all about going easy on ourselves and taking the pressure off as we start a new year.

So, the Non-Resolution.  For the past seven years now, I have made a list at the beginning of each year of things that I resolve not to do.  I find this a bit easier and for me it makes a little more sense.  Instead of focusing on all of the things that you want to do, or change, or be better at this year, I encourage you to join me in making a small list of non-resolutions– things you would like to stop or avoid, or do less of in 2015.

In 2015 I resolve not to:

  • Say yes when I really mean no, or maybe.  This one has been on my list more than once, and it’s something I struggle with on the regular.  By saying yes to something that I’m lukewarm about, just to satisfy someone else, what I’m essentially doing is saying no- that what I want doesn’t really matter, or isn’t too important.  I’m going to try to be better at this.
  • I resolve not to be so hard on myself.  I need to really remember to treat myself like I would a dear friend.  Make my self talk a little kinder, not be s0 judgey about myself the same way I wouldn’t judge a good friend for their choices.
  • Interrupt as much.  I hate when people interrupt; it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.  But you know that saying, the one where you dislike traits in others that you can recognize in yourself.  Yeah.  I know I interrupt too.  My husband and I sometimes argue about interrupting- I give him a hard time for interrupting but then I do it right back to him.  I really want to work on this.
  • I resolve to not worry so much.  Every single year this makes my list.  I’d say that I’ve gotten better at this one, but worry is kind of built into my genes, and I just sort of carry it with me wherever I go.  I try not to dwell on things too much, really do try to focus on living in the moment, not worrying about the “what-ifs” of life.  I know this is something I need to keep working on.  I’ll never be perfect at it and I think to some degree, a little worry is a good thing.  One quote I really love by Michael J. Fox says, “If you get caught up in the worst case scenario and it doesn’t happen, you’ve wasted your time. And if you are caught up in the worst case scenario and it does happen, you’ve lived it twice.” Michael, you nailed it.
  • Text while I’m driving.  Yeah, seriously.
  • Go a week without running.  Running makes me happy.  I love running.  I do all sorts of other exercise, but running you can do anywhere, mostly any time.  I may not be able to run every single day of January, but I can at least run once a week the whole year through, because it makes me feel good, and it’s fun to run.
  • Lastly, in 2015, I resolve to not not live authentically. I will try my best to be true to myself and to be self aware.  I will focus on living in the moment, being genuine, and being kind to myself and others.

What do you resolve not to do in 2015?

Holidaze

Well it wasn’t my intention to start a new blog and go almost a month between posts. Between work, traveling, visiting family, getting ready for the holidays, getting ready to move, and a hundred and ten other things lately, writing hasn’t really happened.  I guess you could say while trying to balance my crazy life lately, this space has been put on the back burner.

But here’s the thing about balance that’s so cool.  You can get a little off track, you can lose your way a bit, but your body inevitably craves some sort of center, a kind of baseline balance that we want to get back to, and naturally steer towards.  Sometimes it’s easier to get back to our balance, back in a good groove, and sometimes it’s really freaking hard.  Like when it’s Thanksgiving and then it’s all of a sudden December and it’s the hectic holiday season and oh, you just happen to be buying a home amongst all this busy-ness, and then Christmas is coming and at the same time there’s work parties, and cocktail parties with friends, and there’s baby showers, and packing (lots of packing, and procrastination!), and there’s trips to NYC, trips to Pennsylvania, family pets dying, babies being born, new haircuts!, Zumba classes with one of your favorite co-workers, shopping, more packing, less running, more takeout, less healthy choices, and then you realize: holy hell, I need a moment to just breathe. 

And that right there is where I’m at right now.  I have a pretty full plate at the moment, most of it all really good things, some of it just regular stuff, and thankfully nothing really unfortunate to fill the plate, but none the less, this plate is piling over!  I have so much going on right now that some days I honestly don’t remember what I went into a room for, what my workout was the day before, if I fed my cat, or took out the trash, or where I put the Christmas present that I got for my mom two weeks ago.

When life hands you a ton of shit at once like this, even if the shit is good shit, it’s important to remember to breathe.  So simple yet sometimes I feel like with a big whirlwind, days go by and it can be easy to just keep going and not really taking time to be present in the moment.  For me, there’s a few things I’m doing to try to maintain some sort of balance during this busy time…

  • I’m going easy on myself.  I’m being kind to myself.  I’m doing what I can, when I can.  Instead of putting pressure on myself to PACK! ALL! THE! BOXES! right this second, I’m doing a few boxes at a time.  And instead of being hard on myself for missing a workout, I’m focusing on really making the workouts and runs that I can get in be effective and on point.
  • I’m trying to get enough rest.  This one’s hard, because for me, after a long, hectic day of crazy-ness, what I really like to do is veg out in front of the TV, catch up on Mob Wives, pin recipes on Pinterest, and watch YouTube videos on how to master a handstand.  I could do all of this until 1am, every night, but I’d be a nasty grouch and not productive because of it.  Also, when I don’t get enough rest, it ends up getting everything else out of whack.  I crave unhealthy foods and drinks, I’m apt to want to do more lazy things, I end up being harder on myself because I’m sleepy, and I’m a cranky and all around don’t feel good.  So, I’m trying to get at least 6-7 hours of sleep a night.
  • I’m enjoying small pleasures and indulgences.  This is a regular one for me, as I really do try to practice moderation on a regular basis, but especially at this time of year, with opportunities to eat yummy treats, drink seasonal cocktails, go on mini weekend excursions, maybe do a little shopping for ourselves while shopping for others, I’m trying to enjoy it all.  The key here for me is that I’m trying to practice it all with a solid sense of moderation.  I’m really trying to ask myself, “is it worth it?” before I go in for seconds, or before I splurge on a 300 calorie drink, or decide to go for an eight mile run in the cold when I’d rather sleep in- I ask myself if what I want is worth it, and if the answer is at least more than 50/50 tipping towards yes, then I usually do it.  And I’m trying (trying real hard) not to have any regrets.  If I decide it’s worth it, then I’m really truly trying to be okay with my choice, and not complaining that I wish I slept in longer instead of running, or that I feel guilty that I ate the third cookie at a friends house.  If it’s worth it, it’s worth it, and I want to enjoy it.
  • Lastly, I’m just going with it.  There’s lots of planning that’s happening right now in my life between the holidays and visiting family and traveling and holiday parties and planning to move into a new home, but at the end of the day, I just need a break from plans, so I’m mostly just going with the flow. What’s that really mean?  I like balance, I do.  And I strive for it, but at the end of the day, life isn’t about lists of how to achieve the perfect balance, or planning out how to feel more centered. What really matters is enjoying the moment, going with what feels right, being kind to ourselves and one another, and taking good care of ourselves.  I think that right there is what really makes us feel balance in the long run.

What about you?  How are you staying balanced during this hectic season?