2015 Non Resolutions

Well, the whirlwind of the holidays have come and gone, and here we are in the first full week of 2015. Happy New Year!

Is it freezing where you are?  I don’t just mean 32 degrees freezing, how about -7 degrees bitter cold? Yikes. I started off January with the intention to run every day this month.  I did this from the first through the fourth, but come this week, temperatures have been crazy cold, so the outdoor running has been… not to much.  I could go to the gym and run on the treadmill, but I’d lose my sanity pretty quick doing that; I hate treadmill running for much more than three miles at a time.  It is supposed to “warm up” this weekend (actually get to 32 degrees) so I plan to get back outside for some more brisk runs.

Speaking of intentions and goals and reflecting on the year ahead, have you made any New Year’s Resolutions?  I don’t know about you, but I often find that with resolutions comes a lot of pressure.  Don’t get me wrong, I think setting goals and putting intentions out there is a good thing, but “New Year’s Resolutions” to me, has always felt sort of corny and forced.  You look back on the past year, and you make this big, grand list of things that you plan to do better at in the upcoming year.  You resolve to “lose weight” or “begin eating healthy.”  It’s a lot of pressure I think, and frankly I’m all about going easy on ourselves and taking the pressure off as we start a new year.

So, the Non-Resolution.  For the past seven years now, I have made a list at the beginning of each year of things that I resolve not to do.  I find this a bit easier and for me it makes a little more sense.  Instead of focusing on all of the things that you want to do, or change, or be better at this year, I encourage you to join me in making a small list of non-resolutions– things you would like to stop or avoid, or do less of in 2015.

In 2015 I resolve not to:

  • Say yes when I really mean no, or maybe.  This one has been on my list more than once, and it’s something I struggle with on the regular.  By saying yes to something that I’m lukewarm about, just to satisfy someone else, what I’m essentially doing is saying no- that what I want doesn’t really matter, or isn’t too important.  I’m going to try to be better at this.
  • I resolve not to be so hard on myself.  I need to really remember to treat myself like I would a dear friend.  Make my self talk a little kinder, not be s0 judgey about myself the same way I wouldn’t judge a good friend for their choices.
  • Interrupt as much.  I hate when people interrupt; it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.  But you know that saying, the one where you dislike traits in others that you can recognize in yourself.  Yeah.  I know I interrupt too.  My husband and I sometimes argue about interrupting- I give him a hard time for interrupting but then I do it right back to him.  I really want to work on this.
  • I resolve to not worry so much.  Every single year this makes my list.  I’d say that I’ve gotten better at this one, but worry is kind of built into my genes, and I just sort of carry it with me wherever I go.  I try not to dwell on things too much, really do try to focus on living in the moment, not worrying about the “what-ifs” of life.  I know this is something I need to keep working on.  I’ll never be perfect at it and I think to some degree, a little worry is a good thing.  One quote I really love by Michael J. Fox says, “If you get caught up in the worst case scenario and it doesn’t happen, you’ve wasted your time. And if you are caught up in the worst case scenario and it does happen, you’ve lived it twice.” Michael, you nailed it.
  • Text while I’m driving.  Yeah, seriously.
  • Go a week without running.  Running makes me happy.  I love running.  I do all sorts of other exercise, but running you can do anywhere, mostly any time.  I may not be able to run every single day of January, but I can at least run once a week the whole year through, because it makes me feel good, and it’s fun to run.
  • Lastly, in 2015, I resolve to not not live authentically. I will try my best to be true to myself and to be self aware.  I will focus on living in the moment, being genuine, and being kind to myself and others.

What do you resolve not to do in 2015?